LESSONS OF A SINGLE MOM
(Happy That I am a Mother)

by : Cherubyn

I am a single mom. A few weeks ago, my innocent four year old daughter asked me, “Ma, why did you choose papa?” I always had answers for my daughter’s questions, but this time all I answered was “I don’t know.”

That question stunned me for most of the evening. My daughter is a little matured for her age. That is what most people who knew her say about her. She always asks and says things that you wouldn’t expect from a four year old. She remembered things about the time her papa and I were fighting noisily while she was asleep even though she was only 2 then. She would come to me when I was crying after a fight. She would hug me and tell me not to cry anymore. Even now that we are no longer with her papa, she would always tell me that we don’t need her papa anymore because she is around for me. She would hug me, tell me that she loves me, and sometimes tells me what not to do. She has been my strength throughout my pain.

Although her papa doesn’t know it, her daughter loves him very much. Even if they don’t see each other often, she would be the one to call her papa on her cell phone from time to time. One time her papa told her that he would come for her but didn’t made it. She told me that he might be busy that is why he didn’t come. Once, I was a little frustrated with her papa and I was telling her that I’m disgusted with him, she told me not to say things because she will be sad when she hears it. So, I just kept my mouth shut and never attempted to talk about her papa that way again.

My daughter, innocent as she may seem, taught me a lot of things. I learned how to be strong, I learned how not to hate, I learned how to bring the best out of everything, I learned to move on with my life. The list could go on and on but the best part of it is that I’m still learning new things everyday from her…

We, single moms should not lose faith. A child needs family, yes, that’s true. That is why we are here for the them. They may lose a father but we as their mother would always be here for them. There would always be a grandfather, a grandmother, uncles, aunties, cousins to complete our family.

The most important lesson I learned is that despite of all the hurts and the pains that I felt before, having my baby with me is worth all of it.